Acceptance vs Connection

Perhaps I've focused too much on "acceptance" because connection isn't something that's always passive: the ego, which is the part of me that makes such decisions as what to focus on, must actively connect with everything else just as it must passively let everything else connect with each other.
If I just say "give me everything you've got and I'll accept it," then nothing may be given, and moreover, it'll make me project this on others so that I depend on them likewise accepting me to connect with them, something that's not even necessary, if I just focus on what connects us. Focusing on acceptance leads to a limited kind of connection, one in which I just let the whole of experiences come my way, instead of one in which I connect with each experience and connect them with each other. I've been throwing everything against the wall to see what sticks, instead of mortaring everything together. It's as if I blew holes in the wall for the world to come in, rather than building doors and windows.
Instead of acceptance, my mnemonic will be "connection". Perhaps there could be a problem with that word as well, since we also need separation. Of course I can be clever and say that in theory, separation is also a form of connection since, by separating things into two groups, we create a connection between all things in each group with the group — but will my unconscious understand that? It'll have to do for now, and perhaps later on I'll peel the onion back yet another layer.
Connection it is, then. Here goes my paradigm shift, and a new epoch in my life. If my mind is a society, then its entire culture has just begun to change to a new movement.