What autistics need to understand: you are as hard to understand to neurotypicals as they are to you. Since you're quite different from them, you can't assume that others will do something the way you would do it, and that if they don't they have the same reasons as when you wouldn't do it. There's more neurotypicals than autistics, and it doesn't matter as much to them as it does to you whether you understand each other, so it's up to you to put in most effort of being understanding.
Autism isn't a reason not to try: autistics are smarter in some ways just as they're less so in others. You may have less intuition but you can use your stronger analytical intelligence to make up for it: if you don't see their expression, try to think of the cause for why others act the way they do, since putting yourself in another's place is pretty hard when you're so different from them.
Autistics are so overexcitable that everything comes at them at the same time and they can't filter anything out: it means they get distracted by anything that's not resolved, and it's unthinkable for them to ignore it and move on even if they're busy, which would make them feel very agitated.
But normal people just deal with one thing at a time at a slow and steady pace, and that this doesn't mean that they cut themselves off from everything else. They're in no hurry to resolve anything, even if it keeps them from progressing as fast. Women in particular are in no hurry to reach a resolution: they're more intuitive and are therefore more at home in ambiguity, in grayscales rather than simple black-and-white outcomes. In fact, Asperger thought his syndrome was basically an excessively masculine brain. But I doubt any actually manipulative woman would take an interest in an autistic, since their undertones would be lost on you and their options would be limited.
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