Nihilitarianism

Quora: "My girlfriend kissed and had sex with a guy at a camp. She told me she was frozen in the moments. She is begging me to forgive her. I love her and I hate her. She said it won't happen again and that she loves me. Should I forgive her?"

Whatever happens from here on, it's a good thing she was honest. No matter what you do, the fact remains that you now have these emotions that you have no choice but to express, if you still want to be in a relationship, because that's what relationships are about. Just do that and see where it leads, and don't be afraid to express emotions that seem contradictory at the same time: you say you love her and that you hate her, so you know you can do both and one doesn't exclude the other. So don't try to make up your mind on which one and just tell her that you love her and hate her. I don't think you should hold anything back, because every time you do, that's part of yourself that you can no longer share, and a part of your relationship that's gone. It's better to have no relationship than a compromise, so just express what you feel and you'll be fine, because you won't feel stuck with any emotion. But here's a poser to think about for when you're arguing: how is that so different from what she did? Just like you, she had emotions that she could either repress or express. If you think she should've repressed hers, then you'll probably repress yours and say "everything is fine" when it's not… and then you'll know how wrong that feels, as if you've lost yourself … if even hate and love don't exclude each other, do emotions for one person exclude those for another?