Demisexual

When joining a Romantics meetup group:

"I've felt a deep longing for a soulmate since I was 13. At the time I didn't even understand these feelings, but I think they were largely inspired by Romanticism including 19th century.  I think the Romantics have been really underestimated and that they were as enlightened as the Tantras or Daoists: I see Romanticism as the union of sexuality and spirituality in which the lover becomes like an embodiment of nature and the other way around. Not that I hope to find my soulmate here… if anything, I hope to have somewhere to share that longing with people who understand it. It becomes unbearable to feel this longing for so long without ever having it fulfilled."

When joining a polyamory meetup group:

I'm not looking for a casual relationship myself. I'm a romantic and what attracts me most about polyamory is its self-surrender: the depth of being fully in the moment and realising that nothing is under our control.

When joining an asexuality facebook group:

Hi. I hope I fit in here, because I might be the odd one out even here: I'm demisexual. There's only been one woman in my life that I ever wanted to have sex with. It's not erectile dysfunction: my entire body remains unresponsive (no change in breath, pulse, perspiration etc). My sexuality is actually as strong as anyone else's but I'm not attracted to anyone. My sexuality is inseparable from my spirituality and without a spiritual connection I can't have a sexual connection. I feel like I'm in love with someone I've never met. I don't want to be this way. I'd like to be in love with everyone.
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I'm not healthy. You know how in the Victorian era, when a lot of people were very repressed, hysteria made up the majority of mental illnesses? Once they could express it, they got better. But what if there's no way you can express it? What if it's something so deep inside you that it's inexpressible — to anyone who doesn't reach just as deep inside your soul? Every time I fall in love they're just scared off by the intensity, and because it happens so rarely it takes years to get over it. I'm even starting to have trouble masturbating, because the reality of how shallow people are has hit me so hard that I can no longer even fantasise.
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I don't think desire has anything to do with expectations, it's just something that bubbles up from our instincts, and we can't help what we desire anymore than a homosexual can. I know it's not about sex, because if it were, I'd be aroused much more easily and wouldn't be put off so easily. I think sexuality is something far more abstract and that it affects all aspects of our behaviour. When I'm not in love I'm essentially like a child.