The Irrelevance of Trust

I'm looking for the kind of people that express themselves no matter what anyone thinks: not because I need them to open up that quickly out of impatience, but because the people I want are those that aren't afraid of being hurt, because they will be themselves no matter what. I express myself from the first moment I meet someone because I accept however the experience turns out, not because I am indifferent, but because I love the experience of every emotion as part of who I am. Even once strong trust has been built up, almost no one expresses their innermost thoughts and feelings, so if it takes time for someone to express themselves at all, they will never express themselves fully, nor allow me to do the same.
The requirement of trust is based on the premise that there are certain things you cannot say or do, and for most people that includes things that make no sense and don't cause actual harm. Most people skirt around that by holding back and not saying too much that's unexpected or out of the ordinary. If I'd have to do that, I'd have to bite my tongue a lot. And it doesn't even matter how much I emphasize that I mean well, because if it collides onto their own inacceptance, there's nothing to be done about it. It might be that I'm expressing something that's too existential, confrontational, intense, or that doesn't agree with their views of right and wrong or what they are expected to be.
Of course it doesn't make people any less beautiful, and I think every person is extremely beautiful, but if you can't be mutually honest there's no way to connect. I won't compromise for a half-measure: I just want to be free.

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