Basis of an Infinitarian Community

I've decided that if I get around to founding my community, it would have to be based on friendship rather than rules. In theory, everyone is supposed to let each other be free to do whatever they want, but in practice it's impossible to enforce this, because relations are very complex and when they connect with each other they are no longer separate entities, so that it's impossible to determine where one's freedom ends and the other begins: when someone represses their own emotion, it also represses the emotions of anyone who connects with them, and therefore limits their own freedom, so in this case, should we have the freedom to confront them on those emotions in order to be released? The only alternative is to not care about that person anymore, or else be stuck in one's own emotions. Here it's just a question of how far one can go in violating their freedom in order to free them from their own far greater oppression of themselves: a few words they don't want to hear may be enough to free them from an oppression which for them is continuous. It's one thing if someone doesn't want to listen because they want to focus on something else, but if they don't want to listen because they're repressing something, that's another matter, but it's impossible to prove which of the two it is. This is a balance that has to be achieved with intuition as well as reason. We'll make mistakes in the process of trying to find that balance, but that's alright. Evolution is messy, because it involves growing into something we've never known before. To evolve, we must accept imperfection, and rules are an attempt to find perfection, to always be right and never make mistakes: we have to accept that sometimes we'll be wrong, but if everyone gets to know each other well enough to be friends, it won't have to go too far out of hand.